10 Parental Rules From Wise Families
There's no such thing as a rule book on how to raise your kid and all parents try to do their best. Here are some pieces of advice from parents whose kids turned out to be little geniuses.
1. They reward each effort.
Some psychologists recommend not praising your child for every little thing, to make them work harder and stimulate their development. However, parents of future geniuses believe that each achievement, no matter how small, must be rewarded. When the child brings his mom a "drawing" on a napkin, she will proudly show it to everyone, encouraging her kid to draw more often.
2. They reward the good behavior.
These parents believe that instead of punishing their kids by taking something away, it's better to set some rules which grant a certain benefit for the correct actions. In other words, instead of losing something when he does something wrong, the child wins something everytime he respects the rules. This way, he learns to correct his behavior himself, for his own good.
3. They teach them to respect the parents' authority.
By teaching kids to respect their parents from an early age, they learn not to depend on Mom and Dad to get them things. Instead, they grow up as independent beings who handle things themselves.
4. They punish disrespect.
Disrespect is something these parents never overlook. While they may be allowed to explore their creativity by drawing on the walls, these kids will be seriously punished if they insult a family member.
5. They let their kids work off their energy.
Being a parent is exhausting. Kids have a lot of energy and they often jump, run, climb things and parents don't always keep up. But here's something we've learned from these parents: You don't have to keep running after your kid to make them stop, because eventually, their energy will wear off. By being allowed to do to let it all out, these kids will grow to be confident and persistent.
6. They accept untidiness.
The surroundings of a child may often be described as chaos. They spill things, they knock things over and tidying up is not really their thing. But this isn't the end of the world. These parents prefer to allow them to live however they like, but they often point out why tidiness is useful, as they grow up.
7. They don't focus on the exterior.
Keeping your kid clean and neat is no easy job and it's really consuming for both the child and the parent. Wise parents believe that keeping a child's clothes has nothing to do with his development. Therefore, they allow them to have all the fun they want, without caring about the dirt.
8. They trust them.
Wise parents believe that trust is a better reward than candy. When a child is fully trusted to do a task for himself, the message he gets is that he is appreciated for doing a good job.
9. They understand that all beginnings are difficult.
For the child to become independent, his efforts should be acknowledged and cherished. It's important to support and encourage them, even though beginnings may be more difficult. With time, things get easier.
10. They reward independence.
It's not enough to teach your child that he can do anything, but that he can do anything himself. By learning how to be independent, they won't just go with the flow, but shape their future on their own.