8 Ways To Spot A Narcissist
You've probably met one, already. Here are the signs!
Interacting, dating, or living with a narcissist can be energy draining. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is characterized by grandiosity, the lack of empathy and admiration seeking from others.
People with NPD have a grandiose sense of self-importance, they exaggerate achievements and talents. They demand excessive admiration because they believe they're special and above the rest. For this reason, they expect special treatment and compliance with their wishes. They lack empathy, meaning they don't acknowledge or care about others' feelings and needs. Everything they do is to achieve something for themselves, never for others.
Narcissists are lovely people in the beginning. They are charismatic and act like you've got so many things in common, it's very easy to fall for them. They make you feel like you've known them forever, so falling in love, or becoming close friends comes easily. But after a while, their criticism, demands, arrogance increase up to a point where you're doing everything to please them, while they ignore you and your needs. Being in a romantic relationship, friendship, and even a work relation with a narcissist is energy draining.
1. They demand admiration.
Narcissists always talk about themselves. Even if you get to share something about you, they'll quickly turn the conversation back to them. They want you not only to listen but to admire everything they share. In the beginning, they might seem very interested in you and flatter you a lot, but that's just to seduce you. They need fans.
2. They feel special.
They truly believe they are above the rest. They'll brag a lot about their accomplishments, the celebrities they know, or the expensive things they buy. They will refuse to eat in restaurants that aren't fancy or sleep at cheap hotels. They'll simply burst out yelling "you want ME to eat HERE??".Â
3. They feel no empathy.
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, and narcissists simply don't have it. People could lack empathy without being narcissists, but all narcissists have this symptom. They might be rude or insensitive to your problems, ignore you and your boundaries, or order you what to do, eat, or wear.
4. They believe they are the center of the world.
Not only they're special and better than anyone else, but they also believe they deserve special treatment. Rules don't apply to them, as they are superior human beings. If they make a mistake, it's everyone else's fault, never theirs. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist and they cheat, guess who's fault it is for pushing them to sleep around? (Yours, obviously)
5. They exploit the people around them.
Narcissists manipulate their friends, spouses, relatives, or colleagues to do things for them. They'll ask you for favors, more and more often, up to the point they're exploiting you. If you dare to say no, they'll make you feel guilty about it and act like it's the end of the world.
6. They are envious.
Narcissists need to be the best, and can't ever be happy about others succeeding. If someone accomplishes something, they'll start tearing them down, saying they don't deserve it, or that they've achieved it through questionable means.
7. They are arrogant.
Narcissists act superior and they often put down other people, groups, races or classes. They will suck up to people they believe are high-class, and treat waiters, doormen, or taxi drivers terribly.
8. They believe they are always right.
Narcissists believe they're always right in any conversation. They'll twist your words, bully you, or guilt you into agreeing with them. They never apologize or admit when they're wrong.
Narcissists are manipulative and charming. In the beginning, they'll flatter you, spoil you, pay attention to your needs. Whatever you need, they'll do it. After you've become their friend or lover, they start exploiting you. They'll make you work harder and harder for their attention while feeling guilty for losing their love in the first place. Dating a narcissist is emotionally exhausting and so is leaving them.