Researchers Found 8 Unexpected SIGNS That A Marriage Won't Last
Divorce can be predicted, according to these researchers.
1. They weren't smiling in their childhood photos.
In their efforts to figure out whether they can predict divorce from youthful and childhood pictures, psychologists conducted several tests. In one such study, researchers analyzed a college yearbook and rated the smiles in the photos on a scale from 1 to 10. Afterward, they analyzed the situations of the people in the photos and found that none of those with smiles rated '10' were divorced. Meanwhile, every fourth person among the frowners was divorced. The results showed that people who look gloomy in photos get divorced 5 times more often than those who smile.
2. They worked with people of the opposite sex.
Danish researchers found that people who work mostly with members of the opposite sex have 15% more chances to get a divorce. The scientists analyzed all the couples who were married between 1981 and 2002 and found that 100,000 had already gotten divorced.
3. Their Mother's example.
Statistically, women file for divorce more often than men. Studies have shown that we copy the behavior of our parents, but especially our Mothers. Sociologists have studied the behavior of 7,000 individuals and found that people whose mothers have been in and out of relationships quite often were more likely to behave the same.
4. They avoid conflicts.
According to psychological researcher and clinician John Gottman, one of the sings of imminent divorce is avoiding conflicts. Couples who never fight may seem happy, but this practice actually leads to accumulating frustrations. While it's not healthy to fight and argue all the time, discussing the issues in a calm civilized matter is healthier than just ignoring them.
5. The husband criticizes his wife's friends.
We don't always like each other's friends, and that's ok. We have different opinions, and that shouldn't stay in the way of a happy marriage. However, scientists have analyzed 373 relationships over 16 years of marriage and found that 46% of them had divorced, and oftentimes the husband's criticism of his wifeâs friends in the first year of their marriage predicted that break in the future. This doesn't go the other way around, though. If women connect on a rather emotional level, male friendships depend on common activities and interests. Therefore, it is easier for men to change the circle of their communication.
6. They are excessively affectionate as newlyweds.
Psychologist Ted Huston analyzed 168 couples for 13 years of their marriages. He published his findings in the Interpersonal Relations and Group Processes journal in 2001, which stated, "When being newlyweds, the couples who got divorced 7 or more years afterward, demonstrated almost 1/3 more affection toward each other than spouses in more successful marriages."
The couples who started their relationship with strong romantic feelings and a lot of affection could not keep their feelings at the same intensity for long, which led to them breaking up.
7. They have financial issues.
Dealing with financial issues is one of the most common causes of divorce. Having money problems leads to arguments, and couples who fight about this all the time eventually separate.
8. They sleep in a narrow bed.
Believe it or not, the bed you sleep in at night matters. Scientists found that couples who don't get a good night's sleep are more likely to get a divorce. When we don't rest well, our mental and physical health suffers and so does our relationship. This is why it is important to have a bed that is comfortable and big enough.