When You Stop Caring About What Others Think Of You, You Become Free
'What will others say?' doesn't matter anymore.
When you no longer think about what others will think and say about you, you become free.
We spend too much time worrying about what others will think and say about us, our decisions, or our personal life. What will my friends think about my new boyfriend? What will my relatives say about my new job? And not only we worry, but sometimes we listen to what they say and get our feelings hurt, or worse, we let these worries affect our decisions. And instead of doing what we really want, dating who we really like, and working in the field we're really passionate about, we end up choosing what we believe is "socially accepted". Just so others won't talk behind our back. Isn't it silly?
What others think of us doesn't matter.
Sure, they'll have opinions and they will talk, even behind your back. But this happens anyway. And it doesn't matter. Regardless of what you choose, there will be someone not 'approving' of your decision. But you are not born to satisfy others, and to struggle all your life to gain other people's approval. After all, you're the only one who's got to live with your mistakes, worries, and fears. You're the one who's got to work hard to achieve your goals, whatever they are. Those talking are just sitting on the bench, watching, and advancing opinions. As long as none of them lives your life for you, what they think and say doesn't matter. The only thing that counts is how you feel.
When you stop caring, some people like you more, and others dislike you just as much.
An amazing thing happens once you stop listening to other people's opinions. Those who disliked you, keep disliking you, no surprise here, but those who liked you, like you even more. Why? Because once you start living life on your own terms, you're happier, more at peace, more confident, more yourself. You are free. And those who love you won't change how they feel about you, ever, regardless of how they feel about your new boyfriend or the career change you suddenly made.
The only thing that matters is that you feel good about yourself.
That's all. If you're unhappy, the whole world can approve of your life decisions, but you still won't become happier. It's you who must approve of your life decisions. Because you are the one living with them. It's you who must love your life because you're the one living it. No one else counts.
You'll never be happy if you listen to what others say about you.
Everyone's goal in life is to be happy. That's why we do everything we do. We work hard to make enough money to live comfortably. We study, so we can find a job we'll love going to every day. We date, hoping to meet someone who will bring joy into our lives. We get married to start a family in which we can enjoy every single day. We're all chasing happiness. And in our hearts, we all know what will make us happy. However, we don't know what makes others happy. It's up to every person to find it in their heart. Only you know what job, person, place, career, etc will bring you happiness. And if you waste time listening to what others think you should be doing to be happy, you won't be hearing what your heart is telling you.